Notice: If you are faint of heart, self-righteous, all personality and no substance, a douchebag, or totally phoney and think no one knows it, don’t read this because you will think I am talking about you/your company/your friend/your dog/your gerbil. I am not, no names (other than the super awesome) are mentioned in here. So shut up. If you call me a hater I will call you a failure and call you out in public, you really want to go there? The truth hurts. I know my truth, I own it, I doubt you do. So before you bash me as an anonymous comment just stop reading and go on with your business elsewhere. This is MY blog, not yours.
I wonder frequently, how many people are being true to their own desires, goals and potential. Is kissing someone else’s rearend really going to get you anywhere? Aren’t you better off being true to yourself and making yourself the “winner” rather than someone else? Integrity people, life is too short to sell your soul for 15 seconds of fame. Get over it. I mean really, who the hell is Kim Kardashian and why do any of us care? Isn’t it the same thing?
Far too often I see people latching onto coat-tails, cheering and supporting people who make statements with little substance, very little sense and even less credibility.
I see events that are all about selling products to the real estate industry and the unsuspecting agents sitting in the audience. It’s advertised as “learning”, with the buzz being “if you miss this you will be left behind and the industry will advance and you won’t”, creating panic and fear. They want agents to believe they MUST be there, they won’t make it another year if they aren’t.
These events are not educational, they are pure and total sales circuses without the disclosure. I am tired of it. I won’t appear, speak or support such events without full disclosure. I challenge the industry to offer full disclosure.
I am tired of hearing from agents who aren’t getting anything from these events, who are confused, who want to believe that the results these agents gets are attainable by them.
Not everyone can be “techy”, not everyone can use this new prospecting tool to benefit their real estate business, but those selling the tickets want you to believe you can. Some people naturally “get it”, others never will. Embrace your strengths and embrace your weaknesses and work from your own position of power.
I challenge each and every one of them to disclose their selection process, to show the qualifications of those standing on the stage telling us how they are using the technologies to grow their business. I challenge them to show us the numbers and their business.
I do it every day. I sell houses. I have been using social networks to prospect and build my business for years. I spent a large portion of 2010 traveling and trying to evangelize the benefits, to help my fellow agents understand the new “Chamber of Commerce” model, but instead they would rather listen to people who have never sold a house, but instead want to sell them a service.
I love a good circus, but I prefer full disclosure. You want quality? You want qualifications? Check out Ben Kinney. Check out Krisstina Wise. Check out Sue Adler. Check out Sheri Moritz. Check out Chris Somers. Check out Christophe Choo. Check out scores of agents you will never hear of that are doing it well and doing it right. There is one person out there telling you how to do it who hasn’t sold a house, but who gets my respect and has the credentials because she is a “Real Estate Brat”, both her parents are agents and she grew up living and breathing real estate and technology – that is Nicole Nicolay, she gets my ONLY pass and respect. [11/5/11: Note - I forgot a major rockstar REALTOR here, one of the first people I knew on Twitter - Mariana Wagner, check her out - she get's it. By not having someones name here does not mean they are not good, I just don't have enough space to name EVERYONE, I just picked some top folks]
Next time you listen to someone on a stage, really LISTEN, don’t take notes, LISTEN and see if it makes sense. If an agent is standing on that stage too often during the year I can guarantee you they are not producing much in the way of sales numbers. I know. I went from #1 in my state in my company in 2009 to way less than that in 2010.
It is easy for people to tell you what works, there are so many people sharing it, but telling and doing are two different things.
Flame on people. I am tired of listening to it, of the circle-jerk of “atta boy” and stepping on each others heads. Grow up and stop hiding your profit mongering ways. How about a little integrity. I am tired of the personality principle, how about we get back to character?
Call me a hater if you want, I really don’t care. If you call me that, chances are I am right, and you are not going to buy a house from me anyway, so I don’t really care what you think. I know what I know, and I know a lot more than most of you do. Paint the picture you want, but integrity is what I have. Honesty too.
A good friend of mine recently reminded me that I should be me, and they like my candor and honesty. That friend isn’t long for this world, so I dedicate this to them. They know me. I can absolutely live with that, and the fact that this will make them smile. If I had the balls that Erika Napoletano or Julien Smith have I would tell you all to [Insert appropriate remark here]…. I do have those balls, but I also have people who are “watching me”.
PS If you feel guilty, then go do something nice for other people and commit to stop being a douchebag. Work hard, and repent. Maybe the industry will forgive. We are all talking behind your back, some of us in front of it. We all know.
Clint… this one is for you baby. I hope you are proud. =)
Note on Saturday 11/5/11: Clarification: I support the companies that help the industry, reporting news, aggregating data, offering products to help us be more effective and better service our clients. I am NOT in any way in support of those that reach into our wallets and take advantage of our willingness to trust, or those that try to tell agents there is a quick fix or a fast and easy way to succeed. The only way to succeed in real estate is through hardwork, integrity, perserverance and distinguished service to the consumer never forgetting they are people and this is not about sales but about service. These are MY opinions. Ask me if you have a question, and I will tell you. I am a human being and therefore prone to err, which is apparently human, so I reserve the right to clarify when necessary.